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Culture Shock? Need your input
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d***@gmail.com
2006-10-05 22:05:41 UTC
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I went to itzamatch.com and began chatting with 2 guys who are from the
US. They are middle-aged, stable and intelligent silang kausap.
However, a friend of mine had an experience going to another dating
site (I forgot na which one) and nung pumunta ang Kano dito, parang
na-turn off yata and bumalik kaagad. My friend is very pretty, nice and
matino but parang naramdaman niya na na-culture shock yung guy or
whatever yung reason niya, hindi gaanong clear. Ngayon, one of these
two American guys whom I have been chatting with sa itzamatch is
willing to come over and see me. Ano kaya ang magawa or masabi ko to
prevent the same thing from happening to me?
joekerr
2006-10-08 00:52:06 UTC
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Post by d***@gmail.com
I went to itzamatch.com and began chatting with 2 guys who are from the
US. They are middle-aged, stable and intelligent silang kausap.
However, a friend of mine had an experience going to another dating
site (I forgot na which one) and nung pumunta ang Kano dito, parang
na-turn off yata and bumalik kaagad. My friend is very pretty, nice and
matino but parang naramdaman niya na na-culture shock yung guy or
whatever yung reason niya, hindi gaanong clear. Ngayon, one of these
two American guys whom I have been chatting with sa itzamatch is
willing to come over and see me. Ano kaya ang magawa or masabi ko to
prevent the same thing from happening to me?
OK the taglish is throwing me... try more english and I'll try to help
you...
Maude Aller
2006-10-09 20:31:41 UTC
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Hi Joekerr!

So sorry. This is what I'm most comfortable with. Anyway, I was just
saying that that I met these 2 guys over at itzamatch. They are both
intelligent. A friend of mine meet her pals at another site and they
meet here in the Philippines. But the guy left back for America right
away and my friend thinks he got turned off by the culture or something
like that. Now, one of the guys I have been chatting with wants to come
over and I'm afraid the same thing that happen to my friend might
happen to me. What can I do to prevent that? I am not a straightforward
kind of person and I don't know what I warn this guy about or whatever.
Help please.

Thank you.
Post by joekerr
Post by d***@gmail.com
I went to itzamatch.com and began chatting with 2 guys who are from the
US. They are middle-aged, stable and intelligent silang kausap.
However, a friend of mine had an experience going to another dating
site (I forgot na which one) and nung pumunta ang Kano dito, parang
na-turn off yata and bumalik kaagad. My friend is very pretty, nice and
matino but parang naramdaman niya na na-culture shock yung guy or
whatever yung reason niya, hindi gaanong clear. Ngayon, one of these
two American guys whom I have been chatting with sa itzamatch is
willing to come over and see me. Ano kaya ang magawa or masabi ko to
prevent the same thing from happening to me?
OK the taglish is throwing me... try more english and I'll try to help
you...
d***@gmail.com
2006-10-09 20:34:04 UTC
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Hi Joekerr!

So sorry. This is what I'm most comfortable with. Anyway, I was just
saying that that I met these 2 guys over at itzamatch. They are both
intelligent. A friend of mine meet her pals at another site and they
meet here in the Philippines. But the guy left back for America right
away and my friend thinks he got turned off by the culture or something
like that. Now, one of the guys I have been chatting with wants to come
over and I'm afraid the same thing that happen to my friend might
happen to me. What can I do to prevent that? I am not a straightforward
kind of person and I don't know what I warn this guy about or whatever.
Help please.

Thank you.
Post by joekerr
Post by d***@gmail.com
I went to itzamatch.com and began chatting with 2 guys who are from the
US. They are middle-aged, stable and intelligent silang kausap.
However, a friend of mine had an experience going to another dating
site (I forgot na which one) and nung pumunta ang Kano dito, parang
na-turn off yata and bumalik kaagad. My friend is very pretty, nice and
matino but parang naramdaman niya na na-culture shock yung guy or
whatever yung reason niya, hindi gaanong clear. Ngayon, one of these
two American guys whom I have been chatting with sa itzamatch is
willing to come over and see me. Ano kaya ang magawa or masabi ko to
prevent the same thing from happening to me?
OK the taglish is throwing me... try more english and I'll try to help
you...
joekerr
2006-10-09 23:11:52 UTC
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Post by Maude Aller
Hi Joekerr!
So sorry. This is what I'm most comfortable with. Anyway, I was just
saying that that I met these 2 guys over at itzamatch. They are both
intelligent. A friend of mine meet her pals at another site and they
meet here in the Philippines. But the guy left back for America right
away and my friend thinks he got turned off by the culture or something
like that. Now, one of the guys I have been chatting with wants to come
over and I'm afraid the same thing that happen to my friend might
happen to me. What can I do to prevent that? I am not a straightforward
kind of person and I don't know what I warn this guy about or whatever.
Help please.
Ok... if you want to avoid the culture shock factor... try asking him
what he know's about the culture or ask questions about American
culture so you can compare.
Try asking him about Aircon or something so you can relate and compare.
This is what people would do face-to-face but, for some reason they
can't think of it when writing.
Let him know about differences like toilet peper etc. Ask him if he's
ever read any books on Philippine culture and /or history. I know it
sounds childish but, it really is important for your relationship(s).
Are these men Catholic? Do they understand how Catholicism blends in
with the strong sense of family/community in Filipino culture? Oh and
does he like fish LOL????
Remember his culture is just as important to him and so you have to
find common grounds- you can do this by asking him about his life and
culture.


Joekerr
Post by Maude Aller
Thank you.
Post by joekerr
Post by d***@gmail.com
I went to itzamatch.com and began chatting with 2 guys who are from the
US. They are middle-aged, stable and intelligent silang kausap.
However, a friend of mine had an experience going to another dating
site (I forgot na which one) and nung pumunta ang Kano dito, parang
na-turn off yata and bumalik kaagad. My friend is very pretty, nice and
matino but parang naramdaman niya na na-culture shock yung guy or
whatever yung reason niya, hindi gaanong clear. Ngayon, one of these
two American guys whom I have been chatting with sa itzamatch is
willing to come over and see me. Ano kaya ang magawa or masabi ko to
prevent the same thing from happening to me?
OK the taglish is throwing me... try more english and I'll try to help
you...
d***@gmail.com
2006-10-10 20:34:03 UTC
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Hi Joekerr!

Thank you oh so much. You probably right. I told him about our always
hot weather here and he said it's ok because his from Florida. He is
Christian and he has this prejudised opinions about Filipinas but he
said that after chatting with me a lot at itzamatch that I am changing
his mind about us Filipina womens. His friend dated Flipinas and he
said they are all just after his riches and money.

Thank you again. I hope this works and that he doesnt get turn off.

Have a good day.
Post by joekerr
Post by Maude Aller
Hi Joekerr!
So sorry. This is what I'm most comfortable with. Anyway, I was just
saying that that I met these 2 guys over at itzamatch. They are both
intelligent. A friend of mine meet her pals at another site and they
meet here in the Philippines. But the guy left back for America right
away and my friend thinks he got turned off by the culture or something
like that. Now, one of the guys I have been chatting with wants to come
over and I'm afraid the same thing that happen to my friend might
happen to me. What can I do to prevent that? I am not a straightforward
kind of person and I don't know what I warn this guy about or whatever.
Help please.
Ok... if you want to avoid the culture shock factor... try asking him
what he know's about the culture or ask questions about American
culture so you can compare.
Try asking him about Aircon or something so you can relate and compare.
This is what people would do face-to-face but, for some reason they
can't think of it when writing.
Let him know about differences like toilet peper etc. Ask him if he's
ever read any books on Philippine culture and /or history. I know it
sounds childish but, it really is important for your relationship(s).
Are these men Catholic? Do they understand how Catholicism blends in
with the strong sense of family/community in Filipino culture? Oh and
does he like fish LOL????
Remember his culture is just as important to him and so you have to
find common grounds- you can do this by asking him about his life and
culture.
Joekerr
Post by Maude Aller
Thank you.
Post by joekerr
Post by d***@gmail.com
I went to itzamatch.com and began chatting with 2 guys who are from the
US. They are middle-aged, stable and intelligent silang kausap.
However, a friend of mine had an experience going to another dating
site (I forgot na which one) and nung pumunta ang Kano dito, parang
na-turn off yata and bumalik kaagad. My friend is very pretty, nice and
matino but parang naramdaman niya na na-culture shock yung guy or
whatever yung reason niya, hindi gaanong clear. Ngayon, one of these
two American guys whom I have been chatting with sa itzamatch is
willing to come over and see me. Ano kaya ang magawa or masabi ko to
prevent the same thing from happening to me?
OK the taglish is throwing me... try more english and I'll try to help
you...
joekerr
2006-10-11 02:26:20 UTC
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Post by Maude Aller
Hi Joekerr!
Thank you oh so much. You probably right. I told him about our always
hot weather here and he said it's ok because his from Florida. He is
Christian and he has this prejudised opinions about Filipinas but he
said that after chatting with me a lot at itzamatch that I am changing
his mind about us Filipina womens. His friend dated Flipinas and he
said they are all just after his riches and money.
Thank you again. I hope this works and that he doesnt get turn off.
Have a good day.
you're welcome... feel free to drop by and ask questions or share your
experiences!
Post by Maude Aller
Post by joekerr
Post by Maude Aller
Hi Joekerr!
So sorry. This is what I'm most comfortable with. Anyway, I was just
saying that that I met these 2 guys over at itzamatch. They are both
intelligent. A friend of mine meet her pals at another site and they
meet here in the Philippines. But the guy left back for America right
away and my friend thinks he got turned off by the culture or something
like that. Now, one of the guys I have been chatting with wants to come
over and I'm afraid the same thing that happen to my friend might
happen to me. What can I do to prevent that? I am not a straightforward
kind of person and I don't know what I warn this guy about or whatever.
Help please.
Ok... if you want to avoid the culture shock factor... try asking him
what he know's about the culture or ask questions about American
culture so you can compare.
Try asking him about Aircon or something so you can relate and compare.
This is what people would do face-to-face but, for some reason they
can't think of it when writing.
Let him know about differences like toilet peper etc. Ask him if he's
ever read any books on Philippine culture and /or history. I know it
sounds childish but, it really is important for your relationship(s).
Are these men Catholic? Do they understand how Catholicism blends in
with the strong sense of family/community in Filipino culture? Oh and
does he like fish LOL????
Remember his culture is just as important to him and so you have to
find common grounds- you can do this by asking him about his life and
culture.
Joekerr
Post by Maude Aller
Thank you.
Post by joekerr
Post by d***@gmail.com
I went to itzamatch.com and began chatting with 2 guys who are from the
US. They are middle-aged, stable and intelligent silang kausap.
However, a friend of mine had an experience going to another dating
site (I forgot na which one) and nung pumunta ang Kano dito, parang
na-turn off yata and bumalik kaagad. My friend is very pretty, nice and
matino but parang naramdaman niya na na-culture shock yung guy or
whatever yung reason niya, hindi gaanong clear. Ngayon, one of these
two American guys whom I have been chatting with sa itzamatch is
willing to come over and see me. Ano kaya ang magawa or masabi ko to
prevent the same thing from happening to me?
OK the taglish is throwing me... try more english and I'll try to help
you...
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